October 2011
1 post
8 tags
the goal:
of dating is so subjective, i think. at different times in our lives we want and need different things and not everyone will have as much experience with it as everyone else.
as for me, i’m pretty old fashioned. i love the idea of waking up together and reading the news (even if it is on our phones via twitter instead of real deal newspapers) and sitting in a coffeeshop talking about...
August 2011
4 posts
5 tags
Dating Tips #123: Put effort into your...
sardonicdatingadvice:
Relationships take work and if you don’t put any effort into your relationship, you won’t have one for very long.
Questions/Response
Email: sardonicdatingadvice@gmail.com
it’s true!
(the thing is though, with the right person the “work” is a lot easier [if not effortless at times] & not in the least a chore. chores are for kids who get...
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“When you date someone, it’s like you’re taking a class in them and when you...”
– How I Met Your Mother (via sardonicdatingadvice)
on mind games:
we’ve previously talked about ‘em on here, i’m sure.
i never thought of myself as someone who’s played them with boys i like. i think being straight forward and honest is really important, and i also don’t have the time or energy to do much else. or at least, i thought i didn’t…
point being: i think i’m the one who’s been playing them in my...
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cheese ball of the year status:
i’m in the happiest, healthiest relationship i’ve ever been in with a guy that i adore to pieces. he’s genuine, sweet, old-fashioned, caring, and a really good looker to boot. he treats me with respect and warmth, and isn’t trying to change me in any shape or form. we’re happy with and approving of one another, how neat is that? only thing i’m not such a big...
July 2011
3 posts
You Are Welcome Here: Internet Dating is for... →
lieslieslies:
I’ve been using the dating site OKCupid on and off for about eight months now. It’s produced a handful of great first dates and drastically fewer second dates. Until recently it had been only a small portal into the regular dating world. There was no difference between a woman from OKC and a woman…
brilliant! worth a read.
xo
June 2011
1 post
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long distance relationships:
can they work? do they? for how long? etc.
this summer i’ll be giving it a go. which means, yes - british gentleman friend, i’ve got one. expect some updates on that, and any advice & observations that come with it. are any of you dating long distance? send your stories, would love to hear ‘em.
so far, so good. skype is a beautiful thing, but nothing compares with kisses...
April 2011
1 post
currently having:
the “i’m happy”/”i’m happy that you’re happy!” talk with an ex-boyfriend. and it’s weird, because i really do mean it. like, 100% pinky swear with all the best intentions.
it’s making me feel old.
and at the same time maybe a little happy myself, too.
xo
March 2011
1 post
do you all unfriend your exes after a certain amount of time on facebook? is it a good idea? bad one? thoughts, please. xo
February 2011
2 posts
what i want (at the moment, anyway):
i think in the world/game of dating, it’s important to know what you want. don’t be stupid enough to pass on something great because they don’t cross every T on your checklist, but have some vague idea as to what you’re looking for. kind of like furniture or wedding dress shopping? you go out knowing some basic qualities needed for the item to work. same goes for...
someone please explain
how some people, as much as you close the door and firmly sweep any leftover romantic notion of them under the table - know exactly which way to reach your heart; if only for a glittering moment. keyword there: glittering moment. still, a nice time. the reality of it all is that only ever accounts for 1/20th (if that) of all time spent with said gent, so i’m just going to bask in the...
January 2011
3 posts
proper dates
can be fun, or really awkward.
for some reason i’m going on one tomorrow night. and you know, save for one date in manhattan - i can’t remember the last time i’ve had a guy plan out such a nice time and keep in touch and remind me that he’s looking forward to it. very gentlemanly.
bought a new dress for the occasion, figured it was the least i could do as a lady....
online dating.
thoughts on it? here’s mine, but let’s have a little discussion and bring some life back into this site yeah?
for the longest time i was absolutely convinced that the only people who used online dating websites - match, eharmony, etc. - were over 40s in search of old high school sweethearts, rich divorcées, casual sex..you get the picture. never would i imagine that any of my friends...
December 2010
1 post
being the "nice" gent/lady
i don’t know. sometimes i think it leads to lots of emotional hurt and disappointment, but i don’t have it in me to be anything else when it comes to relationships. i will play around and be mean with the best of ‘em, but at the end of the day i won’t ever intentionally toy with someone’s heart for the sake of fun or malice. is there a reward for being kind? i dunno....
October 2010
4 posts
always
be the one who got away, not the one who wishes they hadn’t.
words to live by! so far, i’ve stuck to ‘em. xo
Love,
Elle
legitimate conversation i had yesterday:
(i’m paraphrasing, lots of wine was had & i can’t remember exact quotes - kill me!)
housemate: what do you mean he’s stupid?
me: well..you know, sweet stupid! he just forgets things easily but he’s kind and sincere.
housemate: maybe he’s just busy and forgets things..
me: maybe. i don’t know, it’s okay by me. i’m sick of the super...
i just want to say
how much i love good guys. it’s so nice to talk to someone who makes you feel good/isn’t a jerk with lots of emotional baggage, and is really sincere to boot.
i’m a happy clam, but it’s still too early to say anything. just happy! xo
Love,
Elle
are any of you in like (or love?!) with someone swell at the moment?
September 2010
6 posts
why more men should be like mayer hawthorne:
Let’s start with the superficial and work our way to the emotional meat & potatoes, shall we?
1. He’s sharp. Even if it’s just nice jeans and a clean polo shirt, the man always looks put together with ease and confidence. Here’s a guy who could probably wear a star wars shirt and old fashioned slacks, and it’d work. Swagger for daaaaaaaays.
2. He’s...
love, lust, and my opposition to one night stands:...
recently a guy who I’ve known of for ages, though not well - keeps on insisting we get together. time after time i reject him - but he’s a persistent son of a gun! the thing is, on paper he doesn’t sound bad. fairly smart and cultural, not awful looking, pretty good sense of humor, in my age bracket. the big issue is: he’s just looking for action, and that’s not my...
not talking to/seeing people:
makes you see them for more of who they are and less of whom you’ve made them out to be. which can totally be positive in some cases! good & genuine traits are appreciated more and well, flaws start to stick out like sore thumbs. i’m sure the same could be said for people viewing me - but holy hell, what a dickhead that guy was. i mean really, a class act! it’s so nice not to...
on exes in new relationships:
uh.. sometimes it can sting a little, let’s face it.
but in the end, i try to be happy that they’ve found new love..and remind myself that today’s just another day closer to me finding mine.
you can’t concern yourself too much about it, you know? they’re happy, and you’re the real loser if you’re going to go be bitter about it. but if you are the type...
calling bullshit: people who settle for you
hey all,
here’s one that i’ve never had to experience first hand, but have seen from afar. so here it goes! you know when you see couples where one looks pretty miserable and the other delighted to be in a relationship with such a “grand” partner? c’mon, i’m sure. every day of my life, especially in a city as big as my new home (London) - i see this scenario...
August 2010
7 posts
“Love is a temporary madness; you have to make a decision. You have to work out...”
– Louis de Bernieres (via alanajoy) (via quotewhore)
love wrinkles: life trajectories
i think i’m starting to develop some, folks.
what’s that, you don’t know what love wrinkles are? shoot. i’d blame you if i hadn’t coined the term a whole two seconds ago. basically, it’s the bits of wisdom which you accquire concerning love, with time.
here’s one that’s been on my mind lately.
in yesteryears (ie: up until oh, about a month ago)...
break in scheduled programming : a reminder
Hi all!
Dating standards seems to be back on some kind of roll, yeah? And with that — I think it’s time to remind you all of something.
We’re not here to bash the living hell out of romance and love, nor do we find any disgust in happy couples — anything critical said here is done so with a grain of salt, or at least from the point of view of someone who’s...
Standard #66: You Can't Be Michael Cera.
Have you seen Michael Cera in an interview or a movie? He’s the same person in whatever it is. He’s awkward, he stutters, he whines, and he dresses like a lesbian from the 70’s. It was sort of cute on Arrested Development because, come on, that show was awesome and should have never been canceled. But he has played the same exact character in everything he’s been in and I...
calling bullshit: guys* who prefer doormats
Maybe it’s the small feminist that lives within my brain, but I cringe every time I meet the kind of guy I’m about to describe in this post.
Listen, I get it. Not everyone wants a partner that excites them to no end, or one that challenges their thoughts on a regular basis. Some just want comfortable love. The kind that’s steady, without question - warm and cozy, maybe not the...
seeing extinguished flames
what are your thoughts on that? does the chemistry really ever go away entirely? i don’t know, to be honest.
is it okay to hang out with them after everything is said and done and our heart’s healed?
i guess it depends on the kind of person you and your once fling are, and the setting. it’s not something i’ve had to deal with all too often as until now i’ve mostly...
calling bullshit: plan making via delayed texts
I’ve done a post on texting etiquette, which you can read HERE .
But (as I currently wait around for some douchebag — albeit friend & nothing more— to text me back) , I figured I’d take the time to post about one of my biggest pet peeves. Any guy who has the audacity to make you wait around for hours for a text after making solid plans with you prior is a real class...
July 2010
8 posts
i'll be honest, folks
this week is a little taxing because i’ve got all these stupid memories filling up my silly, no good nostalgic brain to its very brim with days of holding hands and lovey dovey BS that happened around this time last year.
i don’t regret it - not one bit! it was sweet, but i’m not pining for anything to happen with that gent again in the least. just human nature i suppose. i can...
hey gents! give a girl some advice, would you?
just bought a boy a watch. i was going to get it engraved, but i feel like that’s something that’s reserved for long-term boyfriends/husbands more than friends, y’know? still, i think it’s one of the classiest presents you can buy for a fella. maybe aid his path to becoming a gentleman, even! (provided it’s of the right style, of course. no diamonte crystals or night-glo features can be...
Oh Shit Dating Standards, I'm Back! Here's a mini...
Hey, Recently I’ve acquired somewhat of a life that includes a job, roommate who actually likes to go out and do things, and some traveling-which is so strange for someone who pretty much didn’t have a life for a solid year due to a series of unfortunate events. I almost have everything but a boyfriend which shouldn’t be much of a surprise from the girl who started this whole...
calling bullshit : leaving things "complicated"
listen folks, i know it’s a hard pill to swallow - but when somebody really truly fancies you and thinks you’re just the most swell person around AND approves of you as a partner - they’re not going to want to keep things complicated. in fact, that’s probably the last thing in hell that they’d want because they would want you all to themselves and they’d like...
June 2010
7 posts
calling bullshit : it's nothing personal,but..
here’s the thing.
saying “it’s nothing personal” isn’t some magical quick-fix for any statement you make.
You can’t say something that directly affects someone else or maltreat them and say “oh it’s nothing personal!” and expect that to take care of it all.
it’s kinda the same as a dude giving a guy a blowjob and shouting “no...
it is way too soon to say anything...
in the least bit definite, but it’s so nice to be treated the way you know you deserve to be treated by a proper kind of gent who doesn’t play mind games. makes me such a happy lady! don’t settle for anything less than that. it’s summer, and i know the natural inclination especially when young is to date the first guy who fancies you to spend your days holding hands and...
meow: dating advice for menby john ryan gallagher... →
dating advice for men by john ryan gallagher let me start by telling you that most women do not like to hear the following things: ‘just control your bitching’, ‘do you have your period?’, ‘you’re always hungry’, ‘are you really gonna wear that?’, ‘for once in your life can you not act…
best advice i'll ever post on here, hands down.
Once upon a time I had a man-friend, he liked really weird movies.
I asked THESE GUYS for advice (albeit with a grain of salt), this happened. I died from laughter, thought some of you may get a kick out of it as well! xo
“query: My man-friend (not my boyfriend!) always makes us watch movies that make me want to puke. EVERY film is pretentiously foreign or vomit inducing – no honest to...
May 2010
3 posts
Standard #64: Be a bit of a grown up.
If you’re in your twenties and still doing things that I would have considered juvenile at 14 - that aren’t charming, in the least bit - it might be time to put on some big boy pants and evaluate how other people might perceive that. If not, maybe you should start expecting toys r’ us giftcards for your birthday (complete with dollar store disney invites and sugary soft drinks...