love wrinkles: life trajectories

i think i’m starting to develop some, folks. 

what’s that, you don’t know what love wrinkles are? shoot. i’d blame you if i hadn’t coined the term a whole two seconds ago. basically, it’s the bits of wisdom which you accquire concerning love, with time. 

here’s one that’s been on my mind lately.

in yesteryears (ie: up until oh, about a month ago) i saw love as something that could defy anything, and with that anything was possible and joyous. and you know, that’s not a bad way to look at it. it’s not entirely true, or false. it totally matters on the people involved & the situation at hand, but here’s what i’ve found to be true. 

though not entirely impossible, it’s a whole lot easier to be involved with someone who wants the same things that you do in life. if your partner wants to stay in a small town and you have big city aspirations, it’s going to be difficult. (words of wisdom/warning: trying to mold them into the type of person who aspires to do as much as you know they can/you want to.. won’t work. at all.) if they don’t want children and you’ve had dreams of an army of children - well..you see where i’m going with this. when you’ve got two people who want to swim in the same direction, swimming upstream is a lot easier. sometimes it’s heartbreaking, to find good love and realize the conditions at hand won’t allow it to be. if you’re both willing to bend, it can happen - and well, good luck to you. but personally, i’ll hold out for someone that makes sense. too many headaches trying to make something that’s so impossible..possible, and is it really ever worth all the effort? learning to accept that we will come across people in this life that we’ll have mass amounts of affection/adoration for and yet can’t be with is a lesson. it’s a weird one, can throw your mind for a proper spin - but will only make us that much more grateful when we do find someone that makes sense & that we adore. that’s a gem, really. when you find one of those, hold on tight! xo 

Love,

Elle