calling bullshit: people who settle for you

hey all, 

here’s one that i’ve never had to experience first hand, but have seen from afar. so here it goes! you know when you see couples where one looks pretty miserable and the other delighted to be in a relationship with such a “grand” partner? c’mon, i’m sure. every day of my life, especially in a city as big as my new home (London) - i see this scenario on the streets. bored husbands with judgemental eyes towards their wives. girls who think they’re too good looking for their boyfriends, using them more as shopping bag hangers than companions. it just looks awful, and not something i’d invest time in. anyway, as bad as it would be to be the person who settled for something less than i deserve (i don’t suggest doing this, ever!) - i think it would be worse yet to be the person someone settled for. you know? i couldn’t stand feeling as though i’m just a stable option for someone because they couldn’t manage to find the one that they really feel compatible with. i’m not saying the relationship would be entirely void of love, but it would be entirely void of the type of love i want. i want a boyfriend who thinks i’m great, and vise versa. i wouldn’t want to dote upon someone who thinks i’m average and okay, just because i’m the most convenient. that’s laziness, and laziness doesn’t have a place in any relationship that i have or will be in - except for nights spent in watching movies cuddled up..y’know? 

so, in short - find someone to be with that makes you excited to be in love with them, and vise versa! it doesn’t have to be love fireworks every day, but at the end of each you should be really content and thankful for each other. i think, at least. xo

Love,

Elle