not talking to/seeing people:

makes you see them for more of who they are and less of whom you’ve made them out to be. which can totally be positive in some cases! good & genuine traits are appreciated more and well, flaws start to stick out like sore thumbs. i’m sure the same could be said for people viewing me - but holy hell, what a dickhead that guy was. i mean really, a class act! it’s so nice not to be involved with someone who makes you feel unsure and inadequate when all you’ve done is be nice to them. i’m still won over by charm, but i’m doing more thorough background checks on character before i fancy a gent now. 

i advise you all to do the same! there’s something fun about just falling in love/like, i know. it’s charming and beautiful, exciting and a utopia of sorts. everyone should go through it at least once. but if you’re looking more for a boyfriend and less for a fling, take some time - see how he treats the other women in his life, and then make the judgement call. it is so fun/beautiful when you find a guy who treats women with respect and care, you start to appreciate them more after a few experiences with dickhead mcgee’s - i must admit! so, treat those kind of gents the best you can. the ones who hold doors and don’t want to be friends with benefits, who’ll always call to make sure you’ve gotten home safely and keep in touch. i might have found one myself it seems (!).. gems, they are. xo 

Love,

Elle