being the “nice” gent/lady

i don’t know. sometimes i think it leads to lots of emotional hurt and disappointment, but i don’t have it in me to be anything else when it comes to relationships. i will play around and be mean with the best of ‘em, but at the end of the day i won’t ever intentionally toy with someone’s heart for the sake of fun or malice. is there a reward for being kind? i dunno. but in the end, i tend to find you leave with the upper hand when all is said and done. 

mind you, there’s a difference between being a nice person and being a doormat. doormats nine times out of ten get the shit end of the stick. which sucks, it really does. they just need to find eachother and have a happy relationship, but (as nature would have it) that’s never their type. if you’ve got a healthy amount of self respect (devoid of a big ego) and a kind nature, you’ll be alright. 

i admit though, it can be a bit strange. to get “I love you, I love you, I love you!” texts from a former flame who then goes on to tell you how beautiful you are is a bit well..different! especially when they were the one who kinda made things go downhill, and it wasn’t prompted by a random one night stand or romantic gesture on my end. i just thought it was funny/nice, and didn’t give substantial weight to any of the statements. it’s nice to hear though, who doesn’t love to be loved? not even the grinch, that’s who. xo 

Love,

Elle