calling bullshit: guys* who prefer doormats

Maybe it’s the small feminist that lives within my brain, but I cringe every time I meet  the kind of guy I’m about to describe in this post. 

Listen, I get it. Not everyone wants a partner that excites them to no end, or one that challenges their thoughts on a regular basis. Some just want comfortable love. The kind that’s steady, without question - warm and cozy, maybe not the most exciting - but consistent. That’s fine. There’s loyalty there, understanding..and most of all ——- drum roll please.. 

RESPECT (!!!)

And there is the grand difference. I’ve met a handful of guys and have heard horror stories of many more who say they kind of just want a loyal, loving girl who’s perfectly sweet (if not a bit meek) to stay by their side. Which, is good and all — until you realize that they essentially want to have their cake & eat it too. They want the doormat to be faithful without question, devoted and adoring of them — while having flings with exciting girls, interesting ones that won’t deal with their bullshit for very long. While constantly switching roles between loving partner and distant SOB, they expect ms.doormat to stick around with a smile on her face regardless of the emotional turmoil they put them through. And excuse my french, but that really fucking sucks. 

Instead of being men, fixing their own personal issues in order to be with the kind of girl that really interests them - they rather sit on their ass and have quality love handed to them on a silver plate, only to receive it without much enthusiasm and usually without much love in return. 

It’s pathetic, really. And anyone with a good enough heart to put up with someone so vile deserves someone fantastic and respectful all the more. It pains me to see girls (and guys) in these kinds of situations. They suck, aren’t beneficial for either party, and most of all - lead to a lot of upset. It’s the whole comfort thing again, I know. But trust me, if a doormat put half the effort into someone decent as they do into the asswipe of their choice, they’d have a pretty golden relationship that they’d be much happier in. 

phew —- long post, sorry folks. just something that’s been on my mind lately, and luckily not a position i’m in myself at the moment. (hallelujah!) 

*this could totally be applicable to any relationship, it’s less about it being a guy and a girl as it is the situation — regardless of gender and who plays which role! xo

Love,

Elle